And this is the story that makes me do what I do! I love all birth stories but this one sits with me quite heavily for reasons you'll see when you read it. Janine, you are amazing xxx
'So on Wednesday I started to feel some more intense pains, after feeling them since Saturday, and by the afternoon they were joint with tightening. My friends and sister came to visit me and I was just in a very happy place and felt relaxed. I asked my partner if he could set off from work earlier just in case cause it’s quite a long way to get home when rush hour hits. He arrived at 4:30pm and I asked him to put my tense machine on as the tightening's were picking up. I rang the maternity unit for advise and they wanted me to be seen as from what I had described they thought baby might have passed meconium, turns out it was my ‘show’. I was then assessed on the birth suite and she offered to examine me which I agreed to (because I’m too nosey and wanted to know how close I was to meeting my baby).
I was 1cm but had a ‘stretchy cervix’ and was offered a stretch and sweep whilst she was there and again. I Agreed which put me then at 2cm.
I was offered the choice to go home or to stay for 2 hours to see how quick I was progressing. I stayed, got in the bath and 2 hours later was 4cm. Yes! I thought. The midwife ran the pool and gave me gas and air for my surges. My midwife had my birth plan and was on board with hypnobirthing having done it herself. I cannot stress enough how the breathing techniques worked a dream, right from home through to being able to use the gas and air effectively.
So midnight I was in the pool yes with my bikini on which i was teased by friends that I wouldn’t even think about it, that made me determined to get it on! Me and my midwife had a great bond and was having a laugh in between surges about others negativity. I then got hungry and she made me toast (again people mocked and said I wouldn’t eat) another pictured evidence with a smug look on my face and my midwife joining in on the fun. My birth partner was Daddy and he was great reminding me how to breath and offering me water. He appreciated the list I gave him and the information I’d given him from the course. And I appreciated his response; he was perfect with me stroking my hair and hand to relax me.
So 4 hours past and unfortunately I had urine retention and they struggled to help me with a catheter and took some time to get this sorted. No further dilation happened but my midwife remained positive and said the baby may have more room to push down once my bladder had emptied.
So another 4 hours, bladder had been emptied but filled up again and I was in retention again. Midwife changed over - my birth plan didn’t follow.
Just before getting out of the pool I asked Paul for a drink he leaned over the pool and that’s when it happened (it’s funny now but wasn’t then) ... freezing cold shower came on!! He had knocked it by accident and couldn’t get it off and was chasing the hose round while I’m screaming ‘WHY WOULD YOU DO THAT’ laughing inside crying on the outside what a memorable moment that was.
The new midwife examined me she said I’m just going to pop your waters and with that half we’re out she then asked for assistance from her student midwife and used a tool to pop the rest. My birth plan was that I didn’t want them breaking and ideally wanted to be asked and given a good reason why i should have them popped. But that was that and she said ok that should speed things along and the surges got intense! She then told me that baby had opened his bowels and so I’m glad now she did break my waters to know my baby wasn’t happy.
I knew then I was going to the labour ward and asked for some pethidine as it was all getting a bit too much and I knew I wasn’t close to meeting my baby. So pethidine given, I moved to labour ward and met my new lovely midwife who I demanded an epidural from as the surges had become too much for me to stay in control of. She obliged and I met my wonderful anaesthetist who was the nicest guy ever. Then things started to become more complicated.
BUT I was still in control. They informed me and included me in all decisions and I felt safe ... I never feared anything they knew what they were doing and helped me get through. So my surges became too close together and my baby became distressed. They gave me medications to stop my contractions so my baby would be safe. They also had to take some blood sample from baby’s head which I knew was necessary for them to know how to further proceed with our care. Lots of people had now been involved in the decisions made including myself and my partner. We were in safe hands and I was in control and fully informed.
This was when I became unwell and had to have antibiotics and fluids I was shaking like a leaf! Health care professionals flooded in and out helping me and providing the best care! Later once I had settled with my symptoms from likely sepsis the team had a ward round.
So my surges became too close together and my baby became distressed. They gave me medications to stop my contractions so my baby would be safe. They also had to take some blood sample from baby’s head which I knew was necessary for them to know how to further proceed with our care. Lots of people had now been involved in the decisions made including myself and my partner. We were in safe hands and I was in control and fully informed. This was when I became unwell and had to have antibiotics and fluids I was shaking like a leaf! Health care professionals flooded in and out helping me and providing the best care! Later once I had settled with my symptoms from likely sepsis the team had a ward round. They discussed with me that they would start my contractions With the drip. I was concerned at this point as my energy levels were zero and knew I wouldn’t be able to push him out. I told the team this and then the consultant arrived and took all things, including my concerns into consideration. She offered a C section as my baby was still in some distress and I was clearly exhausted. A sigh of relief all round from me Daddy and Nana.
I was relaxed, pain free and ready to meet my baby in the Theatre. Paul (Daddy) was by my side when we met our son William Oscar Wright. They checked him and cleaned him and was with us straight away. Tears of happiness flowed! I couldn’t stop touching his perfect little face. He then had to be taken to the neonatal unit for antibiotics but when he returned he was with me and fed on me straight away my clever little boy. I was never Scared throughout the whole birth and we all listened to my body and went with what it was telling us. I felt everything happened timely and all the right decisions were made. Now I have my almost 3 week old baby who is thriving so well the midwives are always in shock when they weigh him. (Chunky monkey)
Thanks Aimee; you made what could have been a bad and scary experience a pleasant and joyful one! Xxx'
And cue tears rolling down my face!! xxx