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Wednesday, November 21, 2018

'I don't know what to say'.

'I'll just say the wrong thing'.

'What can you say in this situation?'

'I can't find the words'.

'I just wish I knew what to do'.

Words don't instantly come into thought at the time a baby is taken; only gut wrenching pain and confusion can fill a mouth with cries of raw, inexplicable heartbreak. What so many people start to wonder once the initial shock subsides is, 'I don't know what to say'. It comes with any loss, but there is something that hits hard when it is a baby or child that is taken. It isn't normal. It isn't what the cycle of life is about. Why out of all the millions of children born, mine?

Finding any words to even acknowledge this feels an impossible task, because lets face it, what the hell can you say that will remotely take away that wrench? Words of comfort can't touch the emotional pain a parent is feeling, but in fact whatever you feel like saying from the heart, a simple communication of comfort can build trust and stabi...

Sunday, October 7, 2018

Three and a half years ago and it was an experience I don’t ever think I’ll ever fully come to terms with. How can you when what happened is so cruel, unexplained and completely out of your control? October is tainted a cruel month. 

It was two weeks to go until I turned 30 and I was on top of the world. We had planned a holiday to Disneyland in the Easter because I would be due late summer/ early autumn. I had told my mum I would need a larger bridesmaid dress, much to her horror that I wouldn't match my sister and I'd been out to pick up an isofix base because it was an absolute steal on a Facebook selling site. My maternity exempt card was through, and I started planning as much free dental treatment as I could get away with! But Thursday morning, I woke up and had a feeling. I went to work, still not quite right. Maybe morning sickness is finally kicking in, I'd had nothing up to that point. My friend said I look pasty. Bloody hell I felt it. I had started teaching year 13 and...

Monday, July 23, 2018

Baby showers are more popular than ever in the UK. Deriving from America, mums are thrown a small party and showered with gifts, more traditionally for baby. It is now becoming more common that the gifts in there are directly for mum and dad to enjoy too. I found that friends and family brought presents when visiting baby, so I know I decided with all my friends that had babies after me, it was mum's turn to get a treat, too! So below are some alternative baby shower gifts that you might find more personal, practical and sentimental.

1) Anyone who has done a birth preparation course with me will know how much I go on about aromatherapy diffusers, but they are so good! They provide an alternative to candles in labour (after ringing all the maternity units in my area, everyone I spoke to said it was ok to pack it in their hospital bag), and allow you to enjoy your favourite essential oil without clinging to it on a cloth to sniff. They are great to put on at home in the evening; you will...

Sunday, February 11, 2018

As Valentine's Day approaches, lets show the birthing partners' in our lives some appreciation, and that they will be more important to a positive birth experience than you'll ever know!

Sunday, January 14, 2018

So I'm sat here with a pack of left over Oreos and Turnock Caramel bars from my group course yesterday. Pretty much two hours after I looked up gym membership. I have been moaning for about 18 months I can't fit in my old clothes and yet the chocolate still finds its way back to me. I've never been brilliant with self motivation during my adulthood. I was great as a teenager but as the stresses and strains of being a responsible human in charge of other smaller, slightly mad humans, has ironically made me a bit of a lazy lump. I have goals, lists and three calendars on the go to kick me up the arse in getting things done. Yet I still haven't sorted out the shoe drawer, I haven't done a deep clean of the oven, I haven't written my business plan for 2018, along with a list which is arm length. So the time has come to boot myself up the arse, and here is why...

How many days and sleepless nights do you have where jobs, plans, work commitments, communications, relationship breakdowns (...

Thursday, December 21, 2017

Congratulations to the lovely Louise and Haroon on the birth of Sophia. This birth story is so important; it isn't what some people would consider a 'proper' Hypnobirth to be. The one thing I say to every couple before they start their course is that Hypnobirthing isn't about being drug free. The aim of your time with me is to prepare you for different birth paths and whichever one your birth takes, you will feel you had control in it and you understand all the choices made surrounding you and baby. That is what has happened and that is what makes this a Hypnobirth win! Choices made and an amazing birth partner, Louise says...

'The induction wasn’t what I wanted but it was the safest option for her.The hospital was very supportive of me still continuing with my hypnobirthing and I was doing great until I had my 3rd internal, it was so unpleasant and I’d been on the drip for 9hrs and was only 2cm dilated. That really affected my mood. They decided to continue with the drip (even tho...

Wednesday, November 22, 2017

When you are pregnant, most will think about birth at some stage. You know it's going to come out one of two ways, you know your fanny will take a bit of a beating, you won't be able to drive for a while when you have a section, but actually, that's where my thoughts around birth stopped. When I got pregnant with my first, I was lucky enough to share it with one of my best friends and my sister. We often moaned about heartburn and itching skin and dodgy hips, but I can't recall any conversations about birth preparation. My sister was a second timer so I thought she obviously knew what she was doing and my friend was just like me, a bit in shock we were cloning versions of ourselves, but still carried on to plan nights out for when we were out of pregnancy jail. I just kind of went along with watching a few One Borns, oh, and attending a really shit antenatal class somewhere out in the middle of Keighley that never actually mentioned anything about how birth might go in different direct...

Monday, October 2, 2017

So I qualified as a KG Hypnobirthing teacher a few months back now. My mind has been filled with little more than babies and birth. I keep going over the definition of Hypnobirthing for people that ask me, especially the male friends who are totally baffled by my new career. At least when I teach Drama they can crack a joke about me being a tree, but this, they have nothing. I have spent many days now explaining what the course is all about and what amazing preparation it can give ladies and their partners for the biggest event in their lives. The more articles I read, the more the terms, 'no pain relief', 'home birth', 'breathe out your baby', 'off the bed' stick in my mind. And they are examples of terms that have massive relevance to having a natural birth which will contribute to what we hope, little intervention.

Hmm.. but what if I can't have those things? What if I have been told I have Group B Strep? I'm diabetic, surely I have to be induced? I'm measuring big and my f...

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